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Greetings,
At some stage in our lives we learn that to keep
others happy and to avoid rejection, we should ignore
our own needs, be quiet and give away our own
personal power. And the amazing thing is that we
aren't born with this desire - we actually learn it
and work very hard to maintain it.
As soon as we abandon our own truth for another's,
we essentially hand our power to them and violate
our own integrity. When being "good" becomes a way
of life, resentments build, desperation sets in and
neediness increases.
As you reflect on this, remember that change
happens when you are totally honest with yourself.
As you practice putting your own needs first and
standing in your own power, you will notice miracles
unfolding in your communications with those around
you and you will realise that giving up people-pleasing
isn't nearly as scary as you thought. Try it for two
weeks and notice the results.
| The Top 10 Tips To Surviving Change |
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Follow these 10 steps, based on brain research, to
help you cope with the transitions in your life
smoothly and elegantly.
1. Recognise that things DO change.
Nothing
is forever - neither the good nor the bad. Life moves
on and things change. You will suffer far less
frustrations if you accept that the change is
happening and decide to manage it, rather than
desperately try and cling on to an old situation.
2. Pinpoint the specific change you are going
through. Because any change has a number of
implications in different areas of our lives, we tend to
generalise the change we are going through. Stay
focussed on one aspect of the change by writing
down the most uncomfortable loss you will face as a
result of this change and then why it is
uncomfortable for you.
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| Lighten your load |
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Be firm about what matters and flexible about what
doesn't. Your time, your energy, and the moments of
your life are far too precious to waste. There is
nothing to be gained, and much to be lost, by
fighting and agonizing over trivial matters. In such
cases, even when you win, you lose.
If something truly makes a difference to you and your
world, then put the best of yourself into it. If it
doesn't really matter, then quietly and calmly let it go.
Choose not to let the little, meaningless things get to
you. And you'll free up enormous resources for
successfully dealing with the truly important things.
Imagine how it would be if fully half of your
frustrations were to suddenly disappear. Know that
you can easily and naturally make that happen.
Decide today to let all the silly, trivial matters just
float right on by. With a greatly lightened load, you'll
then move faster ahead than ever before.
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| Live Dates For Sarah Steele |
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May 26th, 2005 -
Surviving Change - TeleClass
July 5th 2005 -
Building Rapport - Beaconsfield Speakers Club,
UK
February 2006 -
Surviving Change - South Bucks Branch, Chartered
Management Institute, High Wycombe, UK
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| The Locator |
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sequence of six predictable stages. The Change
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Taking Control of Change |
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Change is a driving issue in our society that cannot
be avoided. Despite this, most people remain
fearful, anxious and uncomfortable
with change.
Skills that allow you to be productive, creative
and flexible with your own life as well, as
helping others handle change, will enable you to glide
through change in a more elegant fashion.
We are living in an age where being change resilient
is a key skill required to achieve our goals and the
Change Cycle series teaches you skills that
allow you to deal with change that can be put into
practice immediately.
Find out more in our next introductory TeleClass on
May 26th.
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