Our two boys, Jake and George aged 5 and 3 are happy and thriving. As I watch them, I sometimes see glimpses of traits which are unknown to us and I naturally think of the donor. I find myself wondering about the old argument of nature and nurture and exactly how they will be affected by the fact of their never being able to meet the man who helped to form their uniqueness.

Initially during treatment, I found it easy to dismiss this dilemma as one for the future, however, with the ever increasing curiosity of children, our eldest son Jake will soon be at the stage where the lovely simplicity of the My Story book isn't enough. I fully expect him to enquire why he will not be able to meet this very important person and I am still unsure of how we will help both ourboys deal this in the most poitive way. This is why I wholeheartedly support the stance that donors should no longer be anaonymnous.

Martyn & Julie Askew