EVERLASTING GOSPEL, DELIVERED BY THE HOLY FATHER,

EVERLASTING GOSPEL, DELIVERED BY THE HOLY FATHER,

THE SUPERNATURAL TEACHER AND THE SOLE SPIRITUAL HEAD OF THE UNIVERSE LEADER OLUMBA OLUMBA OBU, (WHQ) BCS 34 AMBO ST CALABAR NIGERIA

KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE LIFE

1st Lesson Ephesians 5:25	"Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it."
2nd Lesson Colossians 3:18	"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as is fit in the lord."
3rd Lesson 1 Peter 3:8	"Finally, be all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous."

MARRIAGE is a holy institution headed by Christ. It entails a lot of sacrifice in love on the part of the couples. The husband should love his wife as Christ loves his church. And what Christ is to the Church so must a husband be to his wife, a pastor and a comforter.

Love is the Bridegroom’s commandment. It is not the deed of man, but of God that, a man should love his wife. Christ as the shepherd of the church, loves and protects her, He takes care to ensure that no sheep goes astray. The husband has the same duty towards his wife. To marry is not a difficult question. But can you be the keeper and lover of your wife? This means laying down your life for your wife. If the marriage home is not in peace, the husband is answerable for he is not a good pastor. If the wife goes astray, and is perished, God will demand her soul from her husband.

God does not know the woman, He places everything under the care of the man, He uses the man’s responsibility of caring for the wife to test him and see whether he will love his wife as Christ loves him (the husband). If a husband wants to apply God’s example of love to wedlock, he should first of all ask himself whether they have received His instructions. Christ is telling all husbands to keep their wives as a good pastor does to his flock - guiding his life that the sheep may live. He has warned us that if a man does not love his wife, his prayers will not be heard.

But, how many husbands today are ready to learn of Christ? For our own sakes, Christ suffered to the end: so that for our wives, we may likewise suffer as good shepherds.

What day has Christ scourged you? What day has He cursed or pronounced woe unto you? Has Christ refused to give you food, or said unto you: "From today, I don’t want you again, go away to your mother?" What day has Christ told you: "This house is mine, I do not want you." Has He ever told you not to touch anything because you have brought nothing into this world? No never, Christ is the bridegroom without blemish.

But contrary to Christ expectations and instructions, husbands today are selfish and cause division in the house. They maintain strictly exclusive ownership over this or that thing in the house, whereas, husband and wife should have the same right over everything in the house.

They should share the same trunk box, spoon, plate and cup. There should be no harm in the husband using the wife’s wrappers and vice versa - they should have everything in common. Yet, instead of heeding Christ’s instructions, some husbands treat their wives spitefully, disgracing them whenever and wherever they like. They boast that they can marry as many women as they like, and in their foolishness, forget that any pastor who cannot take care of a single sheep, cannot in anyway be trusted with two, let alone more.

THE CONSEQUENCES

Look around the world today, and see how men suffer the consequences for ill-treating their wives. Through their negligence, they wreck their marriage home. Tribulations, litigation, fear; illness and death are among the things any husband, who does not love his wife, is most liable to suffer.

DANGER OF POLYGAMY

Since it is so difficult to successfully be the husband of one, polygamy is a danger we should dread. The man, who ill-treats his wife with the hope that he can marry another tomorrow, should note the danger to which he has exposed himself. This gospel has peace to offer to those who practice it, and war to wage against all those who do not practice it.

1st Lesson Ephesians 5: 25
"Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it."

Some people claim that they are behaving as Europeans; first, by living a happy married life. This is not true. The only fact is that Europeans first embraced Christianity and has successfully applied the principle of love in marriage life. So the man who behaves well in marriage life, is not behaving like the Europeans, but is doing the word of God as Christ is doing in showing perfect love towards the Church.

PRECIOUS

Of all things in the world, what is most precious to a man is his wife. She is a lifetime cross that the man has to carry till death separates them. All truth, humility, long-suffering and patience should be employed in the love for his wife. She is the only person with whom you are one flesh in this world. What you do to your wife is what you do to yourself.

NOT MONEY

Money does not show love in marriage. First ask yourself whether you will be able to carry your wife’s cross during sickness, tribulations, wants and misfortunes. You are her father, brother, sister and husband. You are all in all for her, you cannot think of her clothes, health and food without thinking of how you can supply them.

DISAPPOINTMENT

But disappointment comes when the man who is supposed to be provident in love, comfort and Godliness chooses to deprive his wife of all these rights, simply because he prefers wine, hotel and outside women to his wife.

He lives his wife too worried to be comfortable. The bad husband causes his wife to wander and get lost like a sheep without a shepherd.

PUNISHMENT

And what punishment awaits such husbands. Their punishment should be heavy, for there is no reason why the love of a husband should be turned from his wife to cinema, bar and outside women. We should care enough to examine our selves. Why should we give them stones for bread? Why should our wives knock, and we refuse to open and admit them into our bowels of love. Why should we be stone hearted against the weaker vessel of the Lord? Why should we desert them in poverty? Why should we be bad shepherds and anti-Christian?

CHRIST SURRENDERED HIS WEALTH

Christ saw how poor we were and then came to surrender all His property and heavenly glory. He suffered that we may be filled. He saw how weak we were and surrendered His strength also that we may be strengthened. But if we fail to follow this example in loving our wives, our punishment is indeed great. We are created in the image of God and Christ. If we do not love our wives, we are no more in the image of Christ, and God is no more in us.

WIFE FINDS GOD IN HER HUSBAND

All the above mentioned Godly qualities, which Christ shows towards us and His church, are expected to be seen by the wife in her husband. She finds God in her husband. But supposing the husband does not care to seek, find and abide in God and his Christ, how can the wife see God in him? How can marriage be successful without the head - Christ? Any husband, who hasn’t had Christ, is useless and a house where the man is useless is good for nothing.

JUDGEMENT

Before now, you were saying someone has spoiled my house. But now, you have seen that by telling lies to your wife, causing division in anything with her and not loving her as you should, you are the sole cause of unhappiness in your home. Accept Christ as the head of your house, otherwise you are ruined already. If you do not love your wife, you cannot do the work of God and God cannot give you God fearing children.

You cannot have any good thing in life. Because by casting your wife out, you have cast out Christ and all the good things. If you desert her and sleep in some corner in the town you have deserted Christ. You have exposed her to the danger of death; you crucified Christ a second time. You are a murderer. God asked Cain, "Man where is thy brother?" On the judgement day the husband will be asked: "Man where is thy wife?" How will you be saved if you are a bad husband?

YOU NEED CHRIST

To be a good husband or a good shepherd, you need no money, drink or medicine as you need Christ. You should use Christ’s instructions to keep your family away from sin; or else the sins will be counted against you. Christ is calling upon all husbands to come and learn of Him, how to care for the flock and lay down their lives for them, how to love them and have peace and life eternal. Christ is calling all men to start rolling on the Lord’s feet and receive instructions from Him, for that is the to start being a good enough husband.

The husband’s love for his wife must be reciprocated. Therefore, it is not only the husband that needs Christ the wife also should be a good Christian. She should take Christ’s instructions.

2nd Lesson Colossians 3: 18

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as is fit in the lord."

Dear brethren, have you seen another problem - wives! And you the wife who have quarrelled with your husband before coming to worship today, had you not told him when you parted in discord, that you had better parted with the foolish man, but you will never part with God? And are you sure that you have not parted with God already?

Does a wife who does not submit to her husband remain with God any longer? It does not matter whether you are a millionaire while your husband is a pauper, you must submit to him. And of course, through you, your husband should rise and be the same millionaire as you are. He should be what you are and more. He should always be your husband, and you, the wife submitting to him in all respects.

NO SECRETS

Why then should a woman take her money to nearby relation to keep for her and why should that distant brother be the keeper of her box, while her husband is ignorant of the whole affair? Who authorises the woman to claim that she bought this pot or that knife for her husband or that she brought these things from her parent’s house; In fact, the woman has nothing of her own. All she has belongs to the husband as well. From the day your husband takes you away from your parents, with all your knowledge, beauty from head to toe, with all your vices and virtue, you belong to him all in all.

It becomes your bounding duty to take his instructions. If you cling to your old habits without allowing them to be modified or eradicated by him you are exposed to danger.

Any woman who considers it difficult to regard her husband as her own father had better stayed back a spinster, for she cannot be a housewife. But today, who among the black and white women will not throw back five for one word of rebuke from the husband? How many women abide by the advice of their husbands? How many regard their husbands as lords. Apart from Christ, the wife has no other king than her husband. The parents are not important to the woman as her husband.

RESPECT

Any woman whether black or white who respects her husband respects Christ, and any woman who submits to her husband submits to Christ. Why then should women who are married, wear their marriage rings to go and mess up with other men? I wonder why such women should be called human beings any longer. All your body belongs to your husband exclusively. Even you have no right to converse with another man on the road without the permission of your husband. You have no power of your own, you have no right to wear anything you like, or to appear anyhow or in any fashion your husband does not approve of.

HUSBAND’S PERMISSION

You are not permitted to plan or to think differently from your husband. It is a sin for you to give anybody a penny without the permission of your husband. You are not permitted to argue with him. As the heaven is high above the earth, so is the man’s wisdom above that of the woman. Some women assume too much for the fact that some of them are queens or ministers or Prime ministers. All these are meant to be controlled by men, their position not withstanding. Education has nothing to do in marriage. Money does not give a woman mandate to be above her husband. Nothing does.

There are some women who think that once they have used their beauty to entrap a man into marriage, they are free afterwards to behave, as they like, hoping to use their beauty as an irresistible influence. But I tell you such women had better gone to hell with their beauty. It would have been better that they are called "beauty-dung". Submitting it under the husband’s feet for the sake of happy marriage than to face the consequences of the misuse of their beauty in marriage, for they are bound to suffer in the end.

There is another set of women who want to live a free life, and hope to succeed more by having men they simply call "husband". They therefore use their money to engage poor, simple men whom they hope to control with the influence of money favour. This is a grievous sin for any woman to commit. It does not show the wife’s submission to the husband and is not conducive to love and happy marriage.

DIVORCE

There are others who think that they can desert their husbands at any time they like, and take up new husbands. Some divorce their husbands and go to stay where they call "convenient homes". And you, foolish woman where do you want to go? Where your husband stays is your town and your home. It is your heaven. From the day your parents surrendered you to a man in marriage, your parents and relations have no right over you, but your husband has every right over you.

A WOMAN’S BUSINESS IS HER HUSBAND’S

Women should know that God uses their husbands to test whether they can serve him food and cloth, because something done by the husband to the wife is something done to Christ. You should be like a loving child to your husband. Nothing else should concern a wife than her husband. A woman has no other business than her husband. To be a judge is nothing to her, to be a queen is nothing neither. The glory of a woman is her husband for he is her sole business.

If your husband is not asleep, you should not sleep; it is your duty to watch him. When necessary you should watch over him. When your husband is ill, you are ill with him, his health is your health. As the Church submits unto Christ, so all women are supposed to submit to their husbands. Any woman who refuses to do this has direct punishment from God.

Golden Text 1st Peter 3:8
"Finally, be all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous."

The love we have for our wives should be full of humility and sympathy and peace. These qualities should mark our conversations and actions towards them. Your joy and sorrows should be shared in the spirit of love and oneness.

Your parent’s in-law are also your parents. A husband should not do anything without seeking the mutual consent of his wife. Christ cannot dwell where there is a division, but where both couples are united and surrender themselves to the will of God, Christ is ready to provide their temporal and spiritual needs. And they are merely brother and sister. That is why we say that in the strict sense of the word no man should be called a husband. Christ alone is a husband, while husband and wife are brother and sister.

HAPPY HOME

Therefore there must be Christ in every happy home. There must be singleness of mind, love and pity between husband and wife. Any person who cannot take care of his house cannot take care of the house of God. Whoever prays for successful married life, happy home, children of promise, should take this gospel as the only condition.

Those who have ears let them hear may the Lord bless His Holy words. Amen.

Thank You Good Father

And He answered and said unto them, "Have ye not read, that he, which made them at the beginning, made them male and female?"

And said, "For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they Twain shall be one flesh.

Wherefore they are no more Twain, but one flesh. What therefore God has put together let no man put asunder.

And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and so marrieth her which is put away both commit adultery." Matthew 19: 4-6, 9

"But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery" Matthew 5: 32

Now the things whereof ye wrote unto me: it is good for a man not to touch a woman.

Nevertheless to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife. The wife hath not the power of her body, but the husband; and likewise also the husband hath not the power of his own body, but the wife.

"Defraud ye not one the other, except it would be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and praying: and come together again, that Satan tempts you not for your incontinency." 1 Corinthians 7: 5

"Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; submitting yourselves to another in the fear of God

Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church and he is the saviour of the body.

Therefore as the Church is the subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the Church, and gave Himself for it; that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word.

That He might present it to Himself a glorious church not having spots or wrinkles; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

For any man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cheriseth it, even as the Lord and the church.

For we are members of his body and his flesh, and of his bones.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife and they two shall be one flesh. This is great mystery but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
Ephesians 5: 20 - 33
"Likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands that, if any obey the word they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives. While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that of gold, or of putting on of apparel.

But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands.

Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

Likewise ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered.

Finally, be you all of one mind having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing. But contrary-wise blessing, knowing that ye are there unto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

For he that will love life, and see good days let him refrain his tongue from evil and his lips that they speak no guile.

Let him eschew evil, and do good, let him seek peace, and ensues it.

For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers, but the face of the lord is against them that do evil." 1st Peter 3: 1 - 12

"Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." Colossians 3: 18 - 19

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man and the head of Christ is God." 1st Corithians 11: 3

"Art thou bound unto a wife? Seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? Seek not a wife.

But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned and if a virgin marry she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh, but I spare you.
But this I say brethren, the time is short, it remaineth that both they have wives be as though they had none.

And they that weep, as though they weep not, and they that rejoice, as though they rejoice not, and they that buy as though they possessed not.

And they that use this world as not abusing it, for the fashion of the world passeth away.

But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, that he may please the Lord.

There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she maybe holy both in body abide in spirit, but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

But if a man think that he behaveth himself un-comely towards his virgin, if she passes flower of her age and need so requires, let do what he will, he sinneth not. Let them marry.

Nevertheless, he that standeth steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep virgin doeth well.

So that, he that giveth her in marriage doeth well but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.

The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth, but if her husband is dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will, only in the Lord."
1 Corithians 7: 27 -39

"For I am jealous over you with Godly jealousy, for I have espoused you to one husband that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ." 11 Corithians 11: 2

"And Jesus answering unto them, the children of the world marry and are given in marriage. But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world and resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage.

Neither can they die anymore for they are equal unto the Angels, and are the children of God, being the children of resurrection." Luke 20:34 - 36

"But he said unto them, all men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

For there are some eunuchs, which were born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs which were made eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it." Matthew 19: 11 - 12

"Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak, but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.

And if they will Learn anything, let them ask their husbands at home, for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

What? came the word of God out from you? or came it unto you only?"
1st Corinthians 14: 34 - 36
"I will therefore that men pray everywhere, lifting your Holy hands, without wrath and doubting

In this manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamfacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or pearls or costly array;

But (which becometh woman professing Godliness) with good works.

Let the women learn in silence with all subjection.

But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

For Adam was first formed then Eve.

And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression."
I Timothy 2: 8 - 15

"Eternal love with them abide in Thee for ever may they hide for ever death cannot divide those whom Thou makest one." R.C.H. 325

CHAPTER II
"Let no man deceive himself. If any man among you seemeth to be wise in this world, let him become a fool, that he may be wise.

For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, he aketh the wise in their own craftiness." I Corinthians 3: 18 - 19

"For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.

For as many of you as have been baptised into Christ have put on Christ.

There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female, for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

And if ye be Christ’s, then are ye Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise." Galatians 3: 26 - 29

"And he said unto them: "can ye make the children of the bride chamber fast, while the bridegroom is there with them?" Luke 5: 34

"Ye yourselves bear me witness, that I said, I am not the Christ, but that I am sent before him.

He that the bride, is the bridegroom: but the friend of the bridegroom which standeth and heareth him, rejoiceth greatly because of the bridegroom’s voice this my joy therefore is fulfilled." John 3: 28 - 29

"And they sung as it were a new song before the throne, and before the four beasts, and the elders: and no man could learn that song but the hundred and forty four thousand, which were redeemed from the earth.

These are they which were not defiled with women; for they are virgins. These are they which follow the lamb whersoever he goeth. These were redeemed from among men, being the first fruits unto God and to the lamb.

And in their mouth was found no guile: for they are without faults before the throne of God." Revelation 14: 3 - 5

And the spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is a thirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.

For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy, of this book. If any man shall add unto these things, god shall add unto him, the plagues that are written in this book.

And if any man, shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the Holy city, and from the things which are written in this book.

He who testifieth these things saith, surely I come quickly, Amen. Even so, come, Lord Jesus.

The grace of Our Lord Jesus Christ abide with you all Amen.

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