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Coming Out, Sex and Relationships

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A small selection featured from our stock which includes a huge range of lesbian and gay works covering coming out, sex and relationships. Most available works we have either in stock or can obtain for you at short notice, if you're not sure of what you're after or whether we have it, just contact us. We're always pleased to help.

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How to Order

Gay Sex, Gay Health
All you need to know about gay sex and sexual health
Dr. Alex Vass
£ 14.99

Gay Sex, Gay Health is an essential guide for all gay men, with reliable, comprehensive advice on sex and sexual health. Upbeat and informed in style, and with up-to-date statistics and case studies, this book offers tips on having better, more fulfilling sex, while safeguarding your health. It includes sections on Coming Out, The Anatomy of Sex, Relationships, Sexual Problems, Recreational Drugs. Gay Times called this book 'a great resource' and Dr. Vass lauched it here at the store in what was one of our most enjoyable book events this year. Dr. Vass is a practicing GP and has worked in sexual health and HIV. He has written for Boyz and qx. To order call 0207 278 7654.

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The Lesbian Kama Sutra
Kat Harding
£ 14.99

The Lesbian Kama Sutra applies the spirit and intention of the original Kama Sutra - the expression of uninhibited pleasure through sex - to lives of twenty-first century women. Celebrating love between women with clear, empowering text and rich visual tapestry of images, the book offers a frank and open discussion of the lesbain sexual experience, revealing the intimate relationships women have with other women. To order call 0207 278 7654.

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How To Get Laid
- The Gay Man's Essential Guide to Hot Sex
Jonathan Bass
£ 10.99

The author of 101 Gay Sex Secrets Revealed brings you the first and only guide to help gay men avoid disappointment when they go out looking to hook-up. Jonathan Bass breaks it all down so that any guy can get more 'play' than he's getting now. You'll find the pros and cons of the usual hunting grounds: bars, clubs, bathhouses, gay resorts, and vacation spots. There's also a chat room section that details what all the lingo means and what to look out for - because we all know men don't lie, right? You'll also get tips on: the importance of self-assuredness and knowing how to flirt, how to convince the guy to try something new (like you), negotiating fuck-buddy relationships, how to send the right signals and much more. Smutty, yet sophisticated, this book aims to help gay men find the confidence to get the most out of their sexual ventures. To order call 0207 278 7654.

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Now That You Know
"An essential survival guide for the coming out process"
Betty Fairchild & Nancy Hayward
£ 10.99

If you are beginning to run out of excuses for putting off that little chat with your folks, help is at hand. This is one of the best books that you should read and then give, or recommend to your parents after you have come-out. Written by two mothers of gay children Now That You Know discusses the nature of homosexuality, counsels parents to respond supportively to gay children, and brings families together by maintaining the bonds of acceptance and affirmation. The authors keep the reader up-to-date on pressing health and emotional issues with a new postscript to their chapter on AIDS. They recognise that parents need to reach out to other parents and have a completly updated chapter on support groups, including PFLAG. Finally, a new, fully annotated bibliography serves as yet another resource for parents and their children. Now That You Know won the Gay Book Award of the ALA Gay Task Force. Its authors were praised by the Advocate for succeeding in bringing parents and whole families "from the first moments of revelation through the guilt and recrimination, emerging on the other side of tolerence in love and joy." To order call 0207 278 7654.

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Is It A Choice?
- Answers to 300 of the most frequently asked questions about gay and lesbian people
Eric Marcus
£ 10.99

Is It A Choice? provides insightful, no-nonsesne answers to hundreds of the most commonly asked questions about homosexuality. Offering frank insight on everything you've always wanted - and needed - to know about smae-gender relationships, coming out, family roles, and much more, including:

- How do you know if you are gay or lesbian?
- What should you do if your child is gay or lesbian?
- Do gay parents raise gau children?
- If you think a friend is gay or lesbain, what should you say?
- What does the Bible say about homosexuality? To order call 0207 278 7654.

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Becoming Gay Richard A. Isay Richard A. Isay
£ 11.99

Fully revised and updated this is the classic guide on how to accept one's homosexuality. Using personal case histories Dr. Isay shows how disguising one's sexual identity can induce anxiety, depression and low self-esteem. Chapters tackle acceptance in any stage or circumstance of life and the embrace of positive gay identity. Also available Being Homosexual - Gay Men & Their Development, £11.99 To order call 0207 278 7654.

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On Our Backs Guide to Lesbian Sex
Diana Cage
£ 14.95

Both an exploration and a celebration, this remarkable how-to guide showcases the best writing on lesbian sex and desire in the history of On Our Backs magazine. It includes chapters like; How to Cruise Women? Perfect your Pussy-Licking, The Ins and Out of fisting, How to suck dyke cock and many many more handy tips for all adventures lesbianas out there. With both a dry educational tone and a more twinkle in their eyes this collective of sex writers share their knowledge and expertise with the rest of us. Fun and informative. To order call 0207 278 7654.

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Permanent Partners
Building Gay and Lesbian Relationships That Last
Dr. Betty Berzon
£ 10.99

"Betty Berzon's classic guide, updated and revised, is the how-to for couples in the marriage equality era." Evan Wolfson

Permanent Partners, for a decade and a half, has been the authoritative guide to gay and lesbian relationships. In this up-to-date edition, Berzon offers up-to-the-minute advice on emotional, financial and legal issues that two men or two women face as they create a life together. She draws on thirty-five years of experiencing counselling gay couples to help readers improve communication, resolve conflicts, and make their love and commitment last. The fifteen comprehensive chapters include: Building Compatibility, Addressing Power and Control Issues, Jealousy: A new View of an Old Problem, The Sexual Agenda, Money Issues, Creating A Family and The Inevitability of Change in Your Partnership. To order call 0207 278 7654.

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Without Condoms
Unprotected Sex, Gay Men and Barebacking
Michael Shernoff
£ 17.50

After years of activism, risk awareness, and AIDS prevention, increasing numbers of gay men are not using condoms, and new infections of HIV are on the rise. Using case studies and exhaustive survey research, this timely, groundbreaking book allows men who have unprotected sex, or barebacking, to speak for themselves on their willingness to risk it all. Without Condoms takes a balanced look at the profound needs that are met by this seemingly reckless behaviour, while at the same time exposing the role that both the Internet and club drugs like crystal methamphetamine play in facilitating high-risk sexual encounters. Michael Shernoff is a Manhattan psychotherapist in private practice, and is on the faculty at Columbia University School of Social Work. To order call 0207 278 7654.

Michael Shernoff's book provides much-needed insight and comprehensive discussion of the most provocative and idfficult aspects of sexual behaviour and HIV. Shernoff's writing is clear, direct, and unforgiving in its brutal honesty about sexual identity, behaviour and culture. Marshall Forstein

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Lesbian Sex
101 Lovemaking Positions
Jude Schell
£ 12.99

Ever heard the question, but what do lesbians actually do in bed? Well the answer is hundreds of different things and this deliciously sexy little book of high quality photos and sex-position descriptions prove it! Our favourites are position 72 (Pussy Pilates) and 76 (Tongue and Groove) To order call 0207 278 7654.

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The Transgender Child
A Handbook for Families and Professionals
S. Brill and R. Pepper
£ 9.99

What do you do when your son insists on wearing a dress to school? Or when your toddler daughter’s first sentence is that she’s a boy? Offering an extensive understanding of gender-variant and transgender youth this groundbreaking book covers developmental, legal, medical and school issues. To order call 0207 278 7654.

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The Velvet Rage
Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World
Alan Downs
£ 11.99

A by-product of growing up gay can be the internalisation of shame and that can lead to negative behavioural patterns. This book outlines three distinct stages to emotional well-being for gay men, offering profoundly helpful strategies to stop the insidious cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behaviour and find self-empowerment. The current 'must read' book on these issues. To order call 0207 278 7654.

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